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Traumas that Create Wounds of Insecurity
Think about your upbringing and family dynamics. Were there specific instances or patterns related to insecurity that you experienced as a child? How might these experiences influence your behavior in your current relationships?
Real Life Triggers
Arrogance/ Need to Be Right: In a casual conversation, one partner playfully teases the other about a harmless mistake. The partner with an overcompensating wound of insecurity can’t brush it off or laugh along. Instead, they become argumentative, insisting on their correctness. Their tone turns serious, their words sharp, as they delve into lengthy explanations to prove their point. Feeling the light-heartedness drain away, the teasing partner withdraws, sensing the growing tension over something trivial. The inability to let go of event the smallest perceived challenge to their intelligence or correctness creates an uncomfortable atmosphere, where jokes and light-heartedness are replaced with defensiveness and unnecessary seriousness.
Emotion: Bitterness (Causing resentment/ cynicism)
Dedication: Committing wholeheartedly to tasks, responsibilities, and relationships
Respectfulness: Valuing others’ feelings, rights, and experiences.
Attributes of Motivation
Resilience: The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties and adapt well to change and adversity.
Determination: A firmness of purpose and resolve to keep going despite challenges or obstacles.
Energies: Verbal Denial (Denial of one’s true feelings)
Emotion: Failure, The well-adjusted person is better able to admit his faults than the poorly adjusted individual who is more apt to feel threatened by undesirable traits such as failure. The person has to reject or distort such perception in order to maintain a favorable self-picture.
Emotion: Hopelessness
Emotion: Numb
Hidden Emotion: Pride (Vanity)
Shadow Emotion: Self-Abuse (Abuse, usually an element of anger toward oneself or another person or incident)
Shadow Emotion: Shame
Supportive things to do
Encourage Expression of True Desires: Create a safe and non-judgemental space for your loved ones to express their desires and dreams, no matter how big or small. Reinforce that their wants and needs are valid and deserving of pursuit
The Under Compensating Partner
When we undercompensate for our inner child wounds of violation, we tend to internalize our hurt and disrespect by not asserting our needs and failing to communicate our own expectations for treatment. This often manifests as coldness, bitterness, resentment, and passive-aggressive behavior, reflecting unexpressed desires and unmet needs. unlike the overcompensating approach that seeks to enforce their expectations through dominance, we suppress our true expectations while still holding onto them, leading to internal conflict and indirect expression of dissatisfaction.
Self-Awareness of Triggers
Rather than reacting to our triggers on autopilot, becoming cognizant of our triggers opens up a transformative space-a powerful gap in our awareness where we can pause and reflect. In this space of conscious presence, we have the opportunity to explore the depths of our emotions, beliefs, and behaviors, unraveling the tangles threads of our conditioning. It is within us this reflective pause that we find liberation from automatic reactions and discover the freedom to respond with intention and wisdom. This moment of conscious choice becomes a catalyst for profound growth, healing, and the cultivation of authentic, harmonious relationships.
The concepts conveyed above come from The Inner Work of Relationships By The Yoga Couple Mathew Micheletti & Ashley Cottrell
These are a reflection of how to heal our relationships and all of the messages I brought forth were to help the collective heal from trauma and wounds within relationships and within ourselves. Please share with friends if you feel this resonated with you.
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Love, Light, and blessings to you all
Erika
