In The Gifts of Imperfection, I explain how perfectionism emerged from our research. The definition that best fit the data is that perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, work perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.
Defensiveness: A state of resisting attacking or protecting oneself; being sensitive to the threat of criticism or injury to one’s ego; being on guard against real or imagined threats to one’s person physical and/or emotional. When one takes a stand of protectiveness, progression can be stalled.
Heartache: Anguish of mind; distress. Can also show up as physical pain.
Internalization: the act of incorporating within oneself, the cultural values. mores, etc.; of another person or a group through learning, socializing or identification; to make subjective
Rejection: Feeling denied, refused or rebuffed; feels discarded as useless or unimportant; feels cast out, unwanted; act of forsaking.
Unloved: The feeling or belief that one is not loved or cared for; one is no longer the object of someone’s affection. A child deprived of love grows up feeling insecure and inadequate, either withdrawing from relationships or retaliating, unable to give or receive love. to love and be loved is one of the greatest human needs. “Love is union with somebody, or something, outside oneself, under the condition of retaining the separateness and integrity of one’s own self. It is an experience of sharing, of communion, which permits the fully unfolding of one’s inner activity… Paradoxically, caring deeply for something outside oneself is one of the most gratifying and self-fulfilling of human experiences.”
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