What emotions are holding you back from being vulnerable?
Emotions we discussed today
Contempt: A feeling of disdain for anything considered mean, vile, or worthless; scorn; the act of condemning
Defensiveness: A state of resisting attack or protecting oneself; being sensitive to the threat of criticism or injury to ones ego; being on guard against real or imagined threats to one’s person physical and / or emotional. When one takes a stand of protectiveness, progression can be stalled.
“Defense-oriented behavior helps protect us from self-devaluation or emotional hurt and alleviates the tension and anxiety associated with frustration, conflict, and pressure. When the integrety or woth of the self is endangered, various defense mechanisms are brought onto operation automatically.
Vulnerability is not weakness, its our greatest measure of courage.” Brene Brown Atlas of the Heart Page 15
Avoidance: The second coping strategy for anxiety, is not showing up and often spending a lot of energy zigzagging around and away from the things that already feels like it is consuming us. And avoidance isn’t benign. It can hurt us, hurt other people, and lead to increased and mounting anxiety. In her book The Dance of Fear, Dr. Harriet Lerner writes, “It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable, so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions/ Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the long run, but it will never make you less afraid.”
Blame: to hold responsible; find fault with; censure. It is usually used in the context of putting responsibility on someone or something else so the one doing the blaming does not have to take responsibility.
According to Dr. Daniel Amen, ‘blaming’ is one of the most poisonous of the automatic negative thoughts (ANTs). “Blame is very harmful. When you blame something or someone else for the problems in your life, you become a passive victim of circumstances and you make it very difficult to so anything to change your situation… You become powerless to change anything. The ‘blame game’ hurts your personal sense of power.” You have to take responsibility for your problems before you can hope to change them.
Dread: To fear greatly; to be very reluctant to do, meet, or experience; terror or apprehension as to something in the future; reverential fear.
Guilt: The feeling of having done wrong or committed an offense; culpability, legal or ethical; conduct that involves wrong doing, crime or sin; failure in respect to one’s duty; deserving punishment; falling short of the standards he sets for himself.
Insecurity: Quality or state of being insecure which is: not safe from danger; feeling more anxiety than seems warranted; unreliable; not firm or dependable; lack of assurance; lack of confidence or certainty, not firmly fixed in position.
Oracle of the Fairies By Karen Kay
Nature’s Signs: Be receptive to the subtle messages from nature as you go about your day. Nature talks to us continually need only open our hearts and minds.
Pure Intention: The Fairy of Manifestation will help you to use your wishes wisely. Manifest your heart’s desire with pure intention and for the highest good for all.
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